Everything that goes wrong, every irritation, gets a hotline right to your emotions. They all feel like great candidates to be the “last straw.”

And now this?
On top of everything else?!

Those words that you use as you place it on top of your heap, as you think about the injustice, the irony, the cruelty of “another” thing thrown at you.

Yes, I know about your heap, the pile of “things gone wrong.”

You didn’t make up those things, but you did organize the piles. Listen, don’t make piles out of these, not like this. Let each of these things stand alone. Don’t make them into a pattern, a trend, a message, a warning, a judgement.

Things will go wrong today, tomorrow. Bad things will happen. When they do, it does not mean what you fear it means, that all is lost, that you are beaten, that you are the punch line of some ontological joke.

If you want to gather things into piles, do it with good things. Every time something even mildly pleasant happens, put it together with all the other good things you can think of. Build a towering pile that you cannot ignore. Let piles like that form the skyline of your life.

These samples in the “For those who hurt” series are taken from a book to be released later this year.