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Archive for the month “September, 2009”

30 Sep 2009
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Running with scissors

Do you remember that feeling you had the last time you saw a child, maybe one of yours, doing something that could hurt themselves or another person? Maybe it was running with scissors. Maybe it was standing too close to the edge of a cliff. Maybe it was swinging some object on a string around and around as they spun with their eyes closed. (Maybe it’s too easy for me to think of these examples and my neurotic parenting style is showing.)

You wanted to stop it, right? And not just because the child could get hurt, but also because they could hurt someone else unintentionally. But you’re kind of in a bind, right? If you run right up to grab them, bad things could happen. Someone could get hurt. If you tell them, with some urgency, how dangerous you think it is, they might decide to prove you wrong by pushing it a little. Someone could get hurt. If you do nothing at all, someone could get hurt.

Wow! I’m sure glad we outgrow that running with scissors thing! At least I think we almost do… mostly… more or less.

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Posted by 167hours in Relationships and tagged , , , , , ,
28 Sep 2009
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If time heals all wounds, why do ambulances have sirens?

Healing does take time, but so does gangrene. It would be a mistake to overlook the action oriented aspects of healing. Sometimes there are things we need to do in order to heal. Just waiting is not enough. What we think of as optimism turns out to be neglect. Read more…

Posted by 167hours in Depression and tagged , , , ,
22 Sep 2009
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I let my emotions get the best of me.

If you have ever said to yourself, “I let my emotions get the best of me” or, even worse, had to say it out loud, you know that your emotions can be very persuasive.  They seem to demand our attention with urgency.

One way to define emotion is “an increased probability of taking certain actions.” Sadness increases the chance of crying. Anger increases the chance of yelling, or doing something violent, anxiety increases the chance of vigilance, or unproductive pacing.

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Posted by 167hours in Anger, Depression, Fear and Anxiety, personal growth and tagged ,
10 Sep 2009
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Just learn to talk to each other? Really?

I find myself, when working with couples, trying to convince them of the following principle:

Even though there is issue x,y & z that seem to be the problem, if you learn to talk to each other first, x,y & z will not be such an issue.

It sounds simplistic. Right? Talk, talk, talk, blah, blah, blah.. Let’s get down to the “REAL” issues!

Here is how it works and it really is far from simple.

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Posted by 167hours in Communication, Marriage and tagged , , , ,
02 Sep 2009
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Can’t we all just get along?

short answer: Thankfully, no.

longer answer: Okay, think for a minute about the building of Solomon’s temple back in about 1,000 BC. From what I understand it was magnificent. Materials from all over the known world were used, gold, stone, wood, fabric. It all came together to form the temple. I’m particularly interested in the large stone boulders, or slabs, because of the weight and the amount of work it must have taken to get them in place.  Weight and bulk were basic characteristics of those stones.

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Posted by 167hours in Emotions in the Bible, Relationships and tagged , ,

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